Saturday, November 24, 2012

Sekali berkawan. Dua kali berkawan. Tiga kali tetap berkawan.



Assalamualaikum


Persahabatan yang tidak jujur umpama meniti buih di lautan. Hamparan buih nan memutih, hanya indah di luaran namun melewatinya bererti menuju ke jurang kehancuran. Mencari sahabat sejati bukanlah mudah. Ramai yang bersama berkongsi suka dan tawa, namun kurang yang ingin menemani kita meniti duka.


Menurut Imam Al - Ghazali, persahabatan itu harus dilandaskan dengan jiwa yang bersih. Malah, Rasulullah S.A.W pernah bersabda: "Tidak sempurna iman kamu jika kamu tidak mengasihi kawan kamu lebih daripada kamu mengasihi diri kamu sendiri."


Hadis Persahabatan: Tukang Besi dan Penjual Minyak Wangi (Riwayat Abu Daud)
"Bersahabat dengan orang yang soleh dan dengan orang yang jahat persis seperti berkawan dengan pengedar minyak wangi dan tukang besi (yang menghembus bara api). Pengedar minyak wangi sama ada ia memberi anda sebahagian atau anda membeli bau-bauan daripadanya atau sekurang-kurangnya anda mendapat juga baunya. Manakala tukang besi pula samada ia menyebabkan baju anda terbakar atau anda mendapat bau yang hapak."



Get tips on being a good listener as a good friend.

1. Let them talk.

2. Don't judge.

3. Let someone disagree.

4. Ask good question.

5. Show them you're listening.

6. Body language.


One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets, so it's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence. Keep in mind that recent studies show that people rarely keep secrets. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust.


Friendships require a lot of tolerance and it boils down to how much you are willing to give and take. We should not judge them based on our own values. Accept your friend as who he is. Once you try to moderate him, that's when the camaraderie will be under stress. Get your friends to know your family as well so that there will be more chances to stay in touch with one another.


I want a true friend too. Lucky, I don't have any close girl friend ever. But no ones can replace her. 


That's all. Thank you. All source is here.


2 comments:

  1. Akakpun takde close friend.. Semua sama je bagi akak..

    Dalam berkawan, akak cuma minta satu je iaitu, bila kita baik dengan orang, kita harap orang itupun baik dengan kita.. Baik yang bermaksud baik di depan, baik di belakang, baik di mulut, baik di hati.. Jika semuanya dah baik, tak perlu dirisaukan akan kejujuran dan keikhlasan mereka.. :)

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    1. kan kak? tp siapa lah kita yg memilih dlm hal berkawan :')

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